We are all so selfish. We are all spending most of the time thinking at ourselves.
We are facing every challenge from our past experience, either we have a negative experience and we face the new experience in trying to avoiding the past experience to come again or we have a positive experience and we propose this past experience to be a guideline, to be an example, the method and the solution to address the new one.
I don’t know if you have notice how eager we are to have a solution when we have a possible issue. We want to know what are the identified actions, which are usually defined from our past experience - either good to be followed or either bad to be avoided - to solve the possible coming issue. From these identified actions we choose the one which will maximize our capacity to avoid the issue. That is what we call responsibility: to take decision, the higher you are in term of responsibility the most important the decision is.
But we never look at the challenge, we are so afraid that we want to take a decision which will make us don’t look at the problem. That fear and our usage of the past limit our responsibility, create a separation between my experience and others experience which dictates our perimeter of action and we never look from a global, shared responsibility. This limited responsibility and fear creates this sense of guilt in not being able to success.
We are always separate, lonely in facing a challenge and this may be the cause of the struggle and the suffering that occurs when we act.
Could we have this quality of “together” facing a challenge? Never letting others influence us in wanting to split the responsibility between you and me. It is also an escape, not wanted to face the challenge.
This sense of guilt increases our fear and reduces and limit our concerns to ourselves. And the vicious circle is there. We are always thinking at ourselves. We never act from the whole.
