I would like to talk about Polarity Management that was presented to me in my job.
People who promote Polarity Management say that they are some question which cannot be answered by a problem to solved approach. The problem to solve approach can only have independent right answers. The others ones are problems with more than two opposite answers that are interdependent and it is called a Polarity Management. They say you must distinguish between a solvable problem and an existing polarity which imply that it has to be managed and cannot be solved. So they called it Polarity Management approach. Polarity is not new; we usually use duality or contradiction when we talk about it in our daily life. It is important to mention that to manage those Polarities; each one is look at with a Problem to solve approach as you will see it below.
So they say Polarities are ongoing, chronic issues that are unavoidable and unsolvable and we are going to question that. Attempting to address a Polarity with traditional problem solving skills makes things worse. It mean that we have been educate to solve problem and when we face the challenges that life is throwing to us we respond with a Problem Solving approach. The Solving Problem Approach try to find an answer “either/or” to the problem whereas Polarity Management manage the problem with an “and”.
Let take an example of Polarity Management which is centralisation / Decentralisation.
The aim of Polarity Management is to manage both opposites in order to avoid the negatives effects of them and to have only the positives ones. In the example chosen in the business area is to have an efficient integration and coordination of systems and a high responsibility of organization near the customers.
It is interesting to see that the negative effect of management is associated to Fear.
Can we look at the core of this Polarity Management which is also usually take as an example in Polarity Management: Relationship?
The Relationship Polarity Management tries to find the right balance in taking care of myself and the others. One thing to notice, life is moving all the time and I’m changing all the time, so this management is an endless process, an endless struggle of avoiding problems and trying to get rid of fear. But we don’t see that the consequences of that changing reality are that fear will always be there and that I will live a life with fear bound to arise at any time.
Now who is the manager? Who is managing that Polarity? Is it not myself? Is it not myself who is struggling to maintain the right relation with others people in myself in order to be satisfied? Then the duality, the polarities lies in myself, no? And another Polarity Management is then to be look at: the myself inward duality Polarity Management.
If we look from outward it Is no more a Polarity Management because there is only me. And not two poles. It is then a problem to solve and the problem is “I”.
And why the problem is “Myself”? Isn’t it because I look at myself with a Problem to Solve approach. If I did not look at Myself with a problem to solve approach, is there a problem anymore? And to go further, isn’t it because at look at myself with a problem to solve thinking that I don’t look at all at myself? I have already set a direction which is to find an answer to the problem.
Now if I look at what is myself inwardly, myself is built of innumerable Polarity Managements: Fear and pleasure, violence and non-violence, desires and frustrations, love and hate, good and bad, and so on.
Can we look at Fear and Pleasure Polarity Management?
But what you are trying to balance, to manage is already the source, the direction you give to management: fear and pleasure. So there is nothing to manage, we are ourselves the duality, the contradiction, the conflict.
So Myself is a bundle of Polarity Management which a basic one is Good and Bad.In every Polarity Management I try to have the right balance between the Good and the Bad, between what give me pleasure, satisfaction and what give me fear. Fear and Pleasure is the same as Good and Bad.
But the good have no relationship with the bad, otherwise the good is born out of the bad and it cannot be the good, it is still the bad. So good and bad is not a Polarity Management. Is it a problem to solve? It is not, neither.
Can we go beyond the problem to solve approach? Can we look at life as not being a problem to solve?
Can we go beyond duality, Polarity Management? And look only at what is, the opposite of ‘what is’ is not a fact.
We usually try to find the right answers to our question and having found them we continue our life. But we never ask if we ask the right question. If we ask a wrong question you cannot possibly have a right answer. Now, can we see that the “I” who is trying to manage myself, who is not separate from himself, can only ask a limited question, limited to himself and never go beyond his own limitations, contradictions, dualities and polarities?
Can we see also that approaching life with a problem to solve approach will not permits to ask the right question because you have already reduce live to a very petty affair?
Can we see that we are fear and not separate from it so that we can act upon it? And escaping from it in trying to find positive results on a hypothetical direction for satisfaction prevent us from asking the right question.
The right question will produce the right answer in looking at the question which is not separate from “me”. Having set a direction, a way to look at the question is already separating myself from the question and prevents me from looking to the question.
Can we ask the right question and go beyond Polarity Management, go beyond duality?